I don't know why this is such an issue but I have recently found myself as a woman and mother being attacked for my actions, my parenting, and my choices on my personal social media pages.
We live in a time where there is SO MUCH for women to be proud of as mothers, as employees, as entrepreneurs, everything!! We are awesome!!!!
With that being said, it takes a lot of effort to make someone feel bad - why not try to to use that energy to think of why you're feeling negatively about that person, and what you can do to change the track your mind is on!!? It will make you feel so much better and you can spare someone's feelings in the meantime. Being negative will not only hurt the person you are attacking but it does nothing to help your mood either.
Ever since I had my child, a light-switch clicked in my head. I realized I not only wanted, I NEEDED to be the best person I could be. I am my child's role model and his first teacher, the person he looks up to and the person who guides him through tough times and bad.
I realized I needed to control how I handled my anger, how I approach people and most importantly what I talk about at home. When I was younger I don't ever remember my mother speaking a bad word about someone and that's exactly how I want to be. At first, not talking badly [And I don't only mean bad words, here ;)] was hard to control , but once I became at peace with myself and my faith it was much easier to deal with. Also, when I had Keegan, I realized I don't even have the time or the need to worry about anyone else. All that mattered (and still matters) is that little bundle of joy and that bundle of joy's happiness.
Which brings me to the main idea of this post. Women and especially mothers, should empower each other!! Why wouldn't we?! If we are not harming ourselves, our child or anyone else what does it matter how we parent or how we choose to spend our days? If there seems be a supermom, instead of being jealous of her, applaud her for all that she does and use her as inspiration for yourself! If there is a mother who seems to be down or lost or needs a little boost, find a way to encourage or compliment her, that may be just what she needs.
Everybody’s situations are unique –everybody’s lives are different. You don’t always know the struggles that others are going through.
It’s okay to have your own opinions about someone, I’m not saying I’m perfect, sometimes I do, too. But statuses on social media, ridiculing one’s life and choices is not the right thing to do. I’ll admit, I was once that person. In high school I posted something similar, a picture making fun of someone who had done me wrong, and it wasn’t the right choice. Why would I stoop to that level just because they made me feel worthless? It didn’t help me cope with my feelings, it didn’t make me hurt any “less”…. I regreted it then and I still regret it now, but I’ve learned from my mistake and I have certainly grown since then, and especially since I’ve become a mother.
I pray for these people who have been doing this to me and also to others. There must be something else going on, something deeper than the target that is provoking them to post.
From here-on-out, I am going to continue do my best to set a great example for my son, and also for other women. We must encourage and empower each-other!!!!!!!! I don't know how many more times I can say it, but I will and I hope you will try with me.
With that said, I am proud of the person, mother, daughter, sister, fiancé, WOMAN, that I am.
And I hope you are too, whatever it is you may be. :)